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Written by my friend C.C.R.

“Out of the Darkness, into the Light”. These short seven words explain unmistakably the effects of healing the wounds of PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) . While reading my daily inspirational “quotes”, I came across this one. We see and hear it often in religious sermons. For the many whose lives have been relentlessly challenged by life’s experiences and survived only by the grace of a higher power or some special intervention, we have an intimate understanding of going from darkness to light.

Sometimes we may reflect on how exactly we got to a “lighter” place:  lighter by the brilliance of radiance in our days, lighter in our spirits that carry a heavy burden, unseen, unfelt, and often times misunderstood, and lighter in our physical bodies that endured the trauma from our past.

The answer to how we got to the light may not be as important as the blessing, we are here. In reality, we don’t remain in this space of lightness every moment. Yet, when we experience these twinkles of happiness, we feel a profound sense of peace. A peace that lets us know we are not alone in our battles. A peace that validates we are loved and cared for during our conflicts. A peace that leaves us with the hope that when we are thrown back into the abyss, we CAN and WILL be able to climb back up to the light. Just trusting this inner knowing is what gets us through the dark days and nights. It is what enables us to wake each morning with new expectations for the day.  Without such trust it would be impossible to continue the journey, for the path is too unpredictable.

Healing Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder is built on the trust that through inner strength and outer resources we can not only survive and mend, we can thrive. Trauma can cause immense changes in our brains and bodies. It is not merely a matter of  ’sucking it up’  that will move us toward better physical and emotional health; it is taking action to get that help needed for healing. For most physical illnesses this is obvious.

If one has a life-threatening disease, he/she would get outside, professional help. She would endure the devastating effects of chemo and radiation to survive. He would go through open heart surgery to repair the damaged organ expecting months of rehabilitation and physical therapy. However, with emotional trauma, some in society still seem to attach a stigma.  The only weapon for dissolving the stigma is knowledge. And the only way knowledge blossoms is through openness, education, and courage.

You see it will take each of us to continue to share our insights with others. Truthfully, it is far easier to remain silent, hiding our wounds from the eyes of  [the] world. Yet, knowledge does not grow in such darkness. It requires light, nourishment, and valor. So it is up to each of us to contribute to the understanding of PTSD and how one can move “out of the darkness, into the light.”

Blessings and continue mending..

I need to talk to you about something important today that is not about business dealings or politics. It is about our fellowman and protecting our freedom. Some of you are not from America, but this message applies to all human beings on this planet and how we treat each other.

No matter where you live, you do know about caring for your neighbors and many of you know about God and His commandment to love each other and to each other’s keeper. That’s all I want to say until you watch the video and read my notes leading up to it.

You have got to watch this video. The man is serious about America being ruined by Obamanomics. He says the “White People aint goinna take it anymore. They’re gonna rise up. I’m telling ya, their gonna rise up and take back their rights and I don’t blame em. I’m gonna be right there with em if they’ll let me.” Manning, Phd

You’ll love his perspective! He is a black minister who talks to his own people. I hope you will watch it, especially if you are a black person. He makes some VERY relevant points to think about in these times.

The point I want to make before you watch this video is that we don’t have to be on opposite sides of this issue. This country is OUR COUNTRY and we are ALL CITIZENS of this great nation. Please don’t allow race to be used as a tool by politicians to divide us. This is a time when people really need to stick together.

Manning says there is going to be a revolution. I have been saying that too for five years now. I wrote it in my book back in 2005. Now the day is here when we have to make a decision on which side we are on. Are we on the Lord’s side and stand up for freedom and self-reliance, with people taking care of those in our own community who need our help, or are we going to let evil and the laziness of mankind steal from the backs of those who work hard to support this country?

If communities and churches were taking care of their own we wouldn’t have this mess now. But we do have this situation because people have turned away from their responsibility to their neighbors and have replaced it for working to satisfy our own desires and our own lavishness.

Now those precious things we hold dear are on the chopping block and will be taken from us by an out-of-control government. We did it to ourselves, but we can fix it too if we will open our eyes and take note of how we got here. Do we need a revolution that includes violence, or do we have a revolution in the way we think and act in our communities?

Although some are trying to make this a black and white issue, it is not! It is a Wake UP Call for us to start doing what we were created to do. We were created to love each other, to need each other, to take care of each other, and to care for those who have less than us.

However, and this is a HUGE however, those of you who have been lazy and expect a handout because of an attitude of dependence, it’s time to start contributing to your community as well. This is a two way street you know, and that is what makes a healthy society. When one side of the street constantly takes and does not care about those who give, then there is something wrong with the system. It’s obvious that this system is broken now, and we all can see it, so lets fix it together okay?

Use This Link For Video: Manning Predicts Revolution

In addition to this video, Americans may also appreciate this other posting on the same topic.  http://canwebelieveit.info/2010/04/07/tired-of-bei…

This repost from a year ago is about being successful when you build character and being a person with whom people want to do business.

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Repost from Business and Network Marketing Coach

March 19, 2009
by Judith Sherman

Let me share my response with you after I read an email I received yesterday. The email was from a man who wanted to help promote my business on the Internet. I share this story because I want you to appreciate how we sometimes become when we focus on pursuing our dreams.

I want to be very transparent about my motives here because the information in this story could be important to you.  Perhaps you will relate to my experience and recognize something about yourself as well.

I learned something about myself when I attended a Dale Carnegie Training class last night. I saw a side of me that I was not aware of, and because I was not aware of it, I didn’t know that I often come off as arrogant and abrasive to people. That is not the person I want to be or how I want to represent myself when I meet people.

I see the same characteristic I saw in myself as being in others who are active in this field. However, like me, they may not recognize it in themselves. As Dr. Phil says, “We can’t change what we don’t acknowledge.” So please read my response to reading the email and being an abrasive type of person. Then I will tell you why I wrote this posting and why I titled it the way I did.

Dear Sir, I appreciate your offer but I am part of Marketing Merge and Renegade University. I have applied the principles taught there and doing pretty well. Now I am chosing to take the next step in my career and become a mentor for network marketers. I am excited about this and what I will be able to do for others with this training. I am writing updates on my blog about what I am learning from my Carnegie experience. I know what I’ve learned will help others like me some day. Perhaps you will check out my blogs. I will be adding one more article tonight about what I learned this evening. I have done MLM for over thirty years. I’ve had the best teachers, read all the books suggested on the reading list, listened to all training and positive motivation tapes, gone to every seminar and every business meeting, and sat with the most successful people in the field … and I am not exaggerating about any of this. I’ve succeeded and failed, and I’ve picked myself up and started over again and again This is often the nature of network marketing. I know when a business is not within FTC regulations and will be shut down when it’s notice. I also know when hype is used to cover up a sinking ship or holes in the plan. I know when someone is only interested in their success after stepping over people to get there. I know a “come-on” or an approach the minute I hear it; I learned them all and I used them. I have gathered a lot knowledge and experience over the years and so I’ve been mentoring others; I found out that I am darn good at it. So now that is what I’m doing, along with my Network Marketing business. However, I realize there are thousands of mentors on the Internet so what makes me different enough to get clientele? First thing that makes me different is that I enrolled in the Dale Carnegie Training. It cost just under $2,000 for the 12 week course. When I complete the course, I will become an instructor for them. Having the Carnegie Course under my belt will make me a better person, a better writer, a better leader, a better trainer, and a better mentor. This one thing alone can put me a step above most of those who profess to be mentors on the Internet. See http://jlsherman.wordpress.com

Now you have likely figured out why I titled this post “It’s All About Me!” What I learned at Carnegie is that everything I did up to this point os all about me. For the first time, I realized that people in the class saw through me and knew that my objectives were centered around me. I did not see how what I contributed to the class might not be helpful to others. Unfortunately, I saw everything clearly tonight about the person I had become; and it was only the second class.

Dale Carnegie wrote the book titled, “How to Win Friends and Influence People”. He teaches that, in order to get what we want, we need to help people get what they want. Being sincerely interested in the other person, listening to them and what they want, means being humble enough to accept that this is not about me. Being humble and sincere is not the way someone would describe me, and I learned that tonight.

People see through the fakes, those only interested in themselves. I recognize that is the person I have become, even though I thought of myself as serving others. This person may have been who I was in the past, but that is not who I am now. I am so very grateful for what I learned tonight. I now understand a lot more about myself and how I can be a better mentor and serve people better than I have been.

I should have known that the only type of success we should want to attain is that which makes us feel good inside. We feel good when we help others obtain what they want before we try to satisfy ourselves. We feel good when helping others fulfill their potentials and see how their achievements make them happy!

One of the success principles that many Network Marketers and Business Owners forget is that what goes around comes around, and that we get what we want when others get what they want. This success principle is taught in the book “How to Win Friends and Influence People”, by Dale Carnegie.

I knew all of this but I did not know how to become that person again. Although I had been successful in the past at helping others get what they want first, I had forgotten it and lost my ability to focus on others.

My brother wanted me to join a social site. I didn’t want to and did not have the time to spend. I wanted to do my business and not waste time on a social site. Then I realized this was my answer for getting humble and out of myself. When I made friends and began to know them and interacting with them, I became my old self again. I became the person that made others feel good just by being me. I needed the social site to soften my rough edges and make me a more loving and kind person.

I am not saying that joining a social site will help you the way it did me, but whatever it takes to soften you up and make you a more kind and loving person, then that is what you need to pursue. So, if you want to change the hardened business person that you think you have become, then I encourage you to do something to serve others and that helps you forget about yourself and your own pursuits.

I realize that this is the opposite of what some upline and business mentors teach.  I also realize that books on how to succeed tell you to stay focused on what you want and everything you do must be working toward that goal. If you agree with these people and do what they teach,you will actually push away the people you need to give you the successes you want.

Think about it. Do you enjoy being around people like you want to become? If you don’t like people like this, why do you think others will like you if you are like them?  And why do you think others will want what you offer if they do not like you? People would rather be far away from you than to do business with you.

So what is the answer? Do you follow what you are being taught by the so-called experts or do you want to become the type of person with whom you would want to do business? Would you want to do business with someone who cares about you or with a stranger who just wants to make a buck?

I welcome your comments on this topic, especially if you recognized this flaw in your own character because of this article.

Thanks,

Judith Sherman

Keeping the peace is important in your dealings.

We need to keep these principles in mind in our business dealing and those with whom we associate.

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Sometimes we become so involved with the obligations associated with Christmas that we forget about the reason for it. We forget that this is when we celebrate the birth of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and what that means to us. It is my prayer that we keep this thought in our minds as we become wrapped up in the gift giving part of the season. In the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.

How many times have you asked yourselves this question?  Have you received the level of success that you want or are you still looking for success? May I success that succes can mean many things, and different things to different people.  Below is my story about asking the question, “Can I really succeed?” and then an amazing thing happened.

I share my story with you so that you appreciate the power of asking the question and then the affect you have on others lives when you have answered this question. Please share your stories with me as well. Our stories are interesting and inspiring to others who are going through the same process.

THE AUTHOR

My story began in 2000 when I came home from a superb business seminar. I had read the book ”Read and Grow Rich” by Burke Hedges just the week before, so my mind was fully primed for a break through when I walked through the door. I stated firing questions at my husband like, “Can I really succeed in business? . . .Can we be successful? . . . Can I really have the precious desires of my heart come to fruition?”

My husband was watching a program on television when I hit him with this barage of questions, so he was not in the mood to answer me. He said, “Jude, just go away. I’m watching a program”. So that’s what I did. I went to the back porch and sat there on a step thinking about these questions. As I looked at our gorgious back yard that looked like a park, I suddenly felt tremendous gratitude for all the Lord had blessed us with for the past five years.

It was then that, in my mind’s eye, I saw my potential and the all opportunities that were there for me to grasp. It all happened in a fraction of a second, but in that moment I knew I would never be the same. Later that day, as I was just about to fall asleep, I saw in my mind the land of my potential; it’s in our minds and consists of the limitations that we place on ourselves.

What happened to me over that entire day was so inspiring that I had to write about it in my journal on the computer. I wrote the book “The Land of My Potential” from those notes. That particular book has turned into a six book series, only two are published at this time.

Unfortunately, writing and publishing books was not received well by my family. They did not see me as an authority on anything, except being a mom – not that being a mom isn’t much. They tried to get me to put down the writing and give up on the book. They feared it would not sell well and that I would be devastated if it didn’t. I did not write the book because I wanted to make money, but money would be nice. I wrote it to help people learn what I have and because I knew that I had to do it in order to fulfill my potential. If I let go of it and did not pursue that potential, I would never succeed in anything else I tried to do.

To make a long story short, writing and publishing books was a huge challege. I had to overcome many obstacles. For instance, first I had to wrestle with myself about writing the book because my family was trying to get me to give it up. Second, it was difficult to take myself seriously as an author, I was nobody special and had no credentials. Also, I wrestled with self-doubt because of all the negativity and teasing from family and friends.

COURAGE AND PERSERVERANCE

I knew I had to write the book, even if I never sold one copy.  At the time, I believed it was important for  me to go after what I had passion for or else I would not be successful in any other pursuits. I knew that I would not succeed in anything unless I stayed true to the commitments I made to myself. That is when I pulled myself together and never looked back at self-doubt again! To make that dream come to fruition and overcome the hurdles life threw at me, I took one step at a time every single day towards completing my goal. The book did get published because I would not give up on it!

Then my son, the one who told me I wasn’t smart enough to write a book and that I was mentally ill and self-centered, sent me an outline of a book he plans to write. My other son decided to share his poetry on the Internet and with others, which he would do before. He would not share his work with a sole except for me, and now he wants to put them into a book. Three grandchildren want to write and have done some writing also. My daughter told me she is proud of me for not giving up when everyone seemed to be against me. Now my daughter is writing a book and so she calls me for advice. My husband decided he wants to publish a dutchoven cookbook. So it looks like I made a difference in my children’s and grandchildren’s lives; all because I kept the commitments I had made to myself and saw my way through it to completion.

WAS IT ALL WORTH IT?

Absolutely!  The best reward is that people tell me how much the book has helped them. A MySpace friend Carol, said no one understands her like I do. Doyle said, it was if the book was written for him even though I didn’t know him. Anne said she was able to move on after struggling with a problem for a long time. She had tried many times, but could never resolve it. After reading the book, she said she was able to get past it and move on. I get stories like these all the time. So yes, it was worth it!